One of Favorite Conference Talks from April 2010

May 18, 2010 at 6:11 pm (Spiritual)

(President Dieter F. Uchtdorf)

The lessons we learn from patience will cultivate our character, lift our lives, and heighten our happiness.
In the 1960s, a professor at Stanford University began a modest experiment testing the willpower of four-year-old children. He placed before them a large marshmallow and then told them they could eat it right away or, if they waited for 15 minutes, they could have two marshmallows.
He then left the children alone and watched what happened behind a two-way mirror. Some of the children ate the marshmallow immediately; some could wait only a few minutes before giving in to temptation. Only 30 percent were able to wait.
It was a mildly interesting experiment, and the professor moved on to other areas of research, for, in his own words, “there are only so many things you can do with kids trying not to eat marshmallows.” But as time went on, he kept track of the children and began to notice an interesting correlation: the children who could not wait struggled later in life and had more behavioral problems, while those who waited tended to be more positive and better motivated, have higher grades and incomes, and have healthier relationships.
What started as a simple experiment with children and marshmallows became a landmark study suggesting that the ability to wait—to be patient—was a key character trait that might predict later success in life.1

Waiting Can Be Hard
Waiting can be hard. Children know it, and so do adults. We live in a world offering fast food, instant messaging, on-demand movies, and immediate answers to the most trivial or profound questions. We don’t like to wait. Some even feel their blood pressure rise when their line at the grocery store moves slower than those around them.
Patience—the ability to put our desires on hold for a time—is a precious and rare virtue. We want what we want, and we want it now. Therefore, the very idea of patience may seem unpleasant and, at times, bitter.
Nevertheless, without patience, we cannot please God; we cannot become perfect. Indeed, patience is a purifying process that refines understanding, deepens happiness, focuses action, and offers hope for peace.
As parents, we know how unwise it would be to indulge our children’s every desire. But children are not the only ones who spoil when showered with immediate gratification. Our Heavenly Father knows what good parents come to understand over time: if children are ever going to mature and reach their potential, they must learn to wait.

Patience Isn’t Merely Waiting
When I was 10 years old, my family became refugees in a new land. I had always been a good student in school—that is, until we arrived in West Germany. There, my educational experience was a significantly different one. The geography we studied in my school was new to me. The history we studied was also very different. Before, I had been learning Russian as a second language; now, it was English. This was hard for me. Indeed, there were moments when I truly believed my tongue simply was not made to speak English.
Because so much of the curriculum was new and strange to me, I fell behind. For the first time in my life, I began to wonder if I was simply not smart enough for school.
Fortunately I had a teacher who taught me to be patient. He taught me that steady and consistent work—patient persistence—would help me to learn.
Over time, difficult subjects became clearer—even English. Slowly I began to see that if I applied myself consistently, I could learn. It didn’t come quickly, but with patience, it did come.
From that experience, I learned that patience was far more than simply waiting for something to happen—patience required actively working toward worthwhile goals and not getting discouraged when results didn’t appear instantly or without effort.
There is an important concept here: patience is not passive resignation, nor is it failing to act because of our fears. Patience means active waiting and enduring. It means staying with something and doing all that we can—working, hoping, and exercising faith; bearing hardship with fortitude, even when the desires of our hearts are delayed. Patience is not simply enduring; it is enduring well!
Impatience, on the other hand, is a symptom of selfishness. It is a trait of the self-absorbed. It arises from the all-too-prevalent condition called “center of the universe” syndrome, which leads people to believe that the world revolves around them and that all others are just supporting cast in the grand theater of mortality in which only they have the starring role.
How different this is, my dear brethren, from the standard the Lord has set for us as priesthood holders.

Patience, a Principle of the Priesthood
As priesthood bearers and representatives of the Lord Jesus Christ, we must serve others in a manner consistent with His example. There is a reason that almost every lesson on priesthood leadership at some point arrives at the 121st section of the Doctrine and Covenants. In a few verses, the Lord provides a master course in priesthood leadership. “No power or influence can or ought to be maintained by virtue of the priesthood, only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned.”2
The character traits and practices described in these verses are the foundation of godly patience and are inseparably connected to effective priesthood and patriarchal service. These attributes will give you strength and wisdom in magnifying your callings, in preaching the gospel, in fellowshipping quorum members, and in giving the most important priesthood service—which is indeed the loving service within the walls of your own homes.
Let us always remember that one of the reasons God has entrusted the priesthood to us is to help prepare us for eternal blessings by refining our natures through the patience which priesthood service requires.
As the Lord is patient with us, let us be patient with those we serve. Understand that they, like us, are imperfect. They, like us, make mistakes. They, like us, want others to give them the benefit of the doubt.
Never give up on anyone. And that includes not giving up on yourself.
I believe that every one of us, at one time or another, can identify with the servant in Christ’s parable who owed money to the king and who pled with the king, saying, “Lord, have patience with me.”3

The Lord’s Way and Time
The children of Israel waited 40 years in the wilderness before they could enter the promised land. Jacob waited 7 long years for Rachel. The Jews waited 70 years in Babylon before they could return to rebuild the temple. The Nephites waited for a sign of Christ’s birth, even knowing that if the sign did not come, they would perish. Joseph Smith’s trials in Liberty Jail caused even the prophet of God to wonder, “How long?”4
In each case, Heavenly Father had a purpose in requiring that His children wait.
Every one of us is called to wait in our own way. We wait for answers to prayers. We wait for things which at the time may appear so right and so good to us that we can’t possibly imagine why Heavenly Father would delay the answer.
I remember when I was preparing to be trained as a fighter pilot. We spent a great deal of our preliminary military training in physical exercise. I’m still not exactly sure why endless running was considered such an essential preparatory part of becoming a pilot. Nevertheless, we ran and we ran and we ran some more.
As I was running I began to notice something that, frankly, troubled me. Time and again I was being passed by men who smoked, drank, and did all manner of things that were contrary to the gospel and, in particular, to the Word of Wisdom.
I remember thinking, “Wait a minute! Aren’t I supposed to be able to run and not be weary?” But I was weary, and I was overtaken by people who were definitely not following the Word of Wisdom. I confess, it troubled me at the time. I asked myself, was the promise true or was it not?
The answer didn’t come immediately. But eventually I learned that God’s promises are not always fulfilled as quickly as or in the way we might hope; they come according to His timing and in His ways. Years later I could see clear evidence of the temporal blessings that come to those who obey the Word of Wisdom—in addition to the spiritual blessings that come immediately from obedience to any of God’s laws. Looking back, I know for sure that the promises of the Lord, if perhaps not always swift, are always certain.

Patience Requires Faith
Brigham Young taught that when something came up which he could not comprehend fully, he would pray to the Lord, “Give me patience to wait until I can understand it for myself.”5 And then Brigham would continue to pray until he could comprehend it.
We must learn that in the Lord’s plan, our understanding comes “line upon line, precept upon precept.”6 In short, knowledge and understanding come at the price of patience.
Often the deep valleys of our present will be understood only by looking back on them from the mountains of our future experience. Often we can’t see the Lord’s hand in our lives until long after trials have passed. Often the most difficult times of our lives are essential building blocks that form the foundation of our character and pave the way to future opportunity, understanding, and happiness.

Patience, a Fruit of the Spirit7
Patience is a godly attribute that can heal souls, unlock treasures of knowledge and understanding, and transform ordinary men and women into saints and angels. Patience is truly a fruit of the Spirit.
Patience means staying with something until the end. It means delaying immediate gratification for future blessings. It means reining in anger and holding back the unkind word. It means resisting evil, even when it appears to be making others rich.
Patience means accepting that which cannot be changed and facing it with courage, grace, and faith. It means being “willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon [us], even as a child doth submit to his father.”8 Ultimately, patience means being “firm and steadfast, and immovable in keeping the commandments of the Lord”9 every hour of every day, even when it is hard to do so. In the words of John the Revelator, “Here is the patience of the saints: here are they that keep the commandments of God, and . . . faith [in] Jesus.”10
Patience is a process of perfection. The Savior Himself said that in your patience you possess your souls.11 Or, to use another translation of the Greek text, in your patience you win mastery of your souls.12 Patience means to abide in faith, knowing that sometimes it is in the waiting rather than in the receiving that we grow the most. This was true in the time of the Savior. It is true in our time as well, for we are commanded in these latter days to “continue in patience until ye are perfected.”13

The Lord Blesses Us for Our Patience
To paraphrase the Psalmist of old, if we wait patiently for the Lord, He will incline unto us. He will hear our cries. He will bring us out of a horrible pit and set our feet upon a solid rock. He will put a new song in our mouths, and we will praise our God. Many around us will see it, and they will trust in the Lord.14
My dear brethren, the work of patience boils down to this: keep the commandments; trust in God, our Heavenly Father; serve Him with meekness and Christlike love; exercise faith and hope in the Savior; and never give up. The lessons we learn from patience will cultivate our character, lift our lives, and heighten our happiness. They will help us to become worthy priesthood bearers and faithful disciples of our Master, Jesus Christ.
It is my prayer that patience will be a defining characteristic of we who hold the priesthood of Almighty God; that we will courageously trust the Lord’s promises and His timing; that we will act toward others with the patience and compassion we seek for ourselves; and that we will continue in patience until we are perfected. In the holy name of Jesus Christ, amen.


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Our trip to Vegas

May 16, 2010 at 5:51 pm (Experiences) ()









We started out by heading to Saint George to stay at Coleen’s condo for the first night.   We ate at The Red lobster because I was craving it, and  Tess was nice enough to go along with it.  It didn’t disappoint.    After that we went to T J Max to buy a lamp and a decoration for the theatre room.   Later we watched some people getting there tattoos removed on MTV and then, we went to bed. (Not huge partiers.)

Then we were off to Vegas where Tess frequently almost drove off the road onto that bumpy stuff that’s suppose to wake up people who are sleeping.  And she makes fun of my driving???   We then arrived and parked at the Paris Hotel then walked around the strip to see all we could.  Then all of a sudden this guy told us he would give us $40 cash and a $50 gift card to take a tour. So we did it and it was about two hours of them trying to tell us we needed a time share or we don’t love our future kids.  Needless to say we didn’t end up getting $23,000 of debt. Then we booked our hotel and ended up staying in the Luxor Hotel, which was nice.  That evening we went to Lance Burton’s magic show. Which was sweet!   Then went to bed.  (Again not huge partiers)

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Looking for Good, and not Being Critical or Cynical

April 18, 2010 at 5:06 pm (Spiritual) (, )

I remember as a missionary serving in Mexico City how caring and hospital the cultur was, this was one of the first things that I noticed that was different than the American cultur. People that we had just meet would be willing to feed us whatever we wanted. There wasn’t this attitude that you had to earn friendship or earn your right to care for each other.

For whatever reason I think people are way to cynical and want to think negatively before positivly. It’s crazy to me how when something good, uplifting, or praiseworthy when talked about only gets focused on once in a while, but when someone has something goes wrong or talkes about someones faults that everyones ears seem to chime in and it fuels itself. I’m just as guilty but, I’m going to fix it.

I promise that what you focus on in life the most is what you get. You see it everyday. For example, when you have a bad day it always seems to get worse and build on itself, if all you worry about is being poor you’ll be poor, if your critical about movies you’ll see less movies you like, and if your like me and you don’t appreciate country music, the worse it gets. The same goes for positivity. The people that are the most sucessful in life focus on that. If you are negative before positive you will have a negative life.

I find it also funny when someone says something nice to you and you take it like they’re not genuin or have intent of being nice. Who cares! Any excuse to be nice is a good one and you should take it as that. If you worry so much about bad intentions you’ll worry less about good ones and having them yourself.

To summerise. Be positive and focus on everything more positivey, then you will have a better life.

Matthew 6:24

No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.

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Retaining wall

April 12, 2010 at 3:17 pm (House Progress) (, )



Here is the retaining wall Tess and I creatred on Saturday. We got a good deal on the blocks so we decided to do it. It took us about 6 hours.

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Band Room

April 9, 2010 at 6:29 pm (House Progress) (, )


Here are some pics of the updated Jam Room we did.  I know, I know. “Why did you pick orange?”  I saw it on my mission at this kids house that had a jam room with his dad. I thought it was cool.

I think it looks good with the equipment.  It took like 10 coates to paint. And at first I wasn’t sure.   But the finish product looks great!  Thanks to everyone that helped.


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Deron Williams, The Best Point Guard In The NBA

April 9, 2010 at 5:44 pm (Interests) (, )


Obviously this is a subject that some may argue but I believe is fact. Let’s start this one by comparing him to Steve Nash. Don’t get me wrong Nash is one of the greatest ever but, this season I take Deron over Nash. There are multiple reasons why.   First, head to head the jazz are a better team.  Deron is a bigger scoring threat and can also get you 14 assists.  I’m sorry but Nash can’t do both as well.


Next, I’ll bring up Chris Paul.   Besides the fact that he’s afraid of D-Will and get’s out played every time they go head to head,  he’s weaker and has potential to get injured more.   Sorry but, the hornets won’t make the playoffs and most likely wouldn’t even with a healthy Paul.   If Williams was on the hornets he would have to do more and, no questions asked would do more than Paul.   Where as Paul is maxed out, and we’ve seen about as much as we will from him.

Jason Kidd is too old.

And no one else is even worth mentioning.

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Cussing and Swearing

March 24, 2010 at 4:01 pm (Spiritual)

This is a fun one for me.   I can’t say I’ve ever had a problem with this.    You might be asking yourself why I would be writing a post about this.    It’s because,  if you can’t control the way you speak chances are it’s harder for you to control how you think, act, respond,  and other aspects of your life.   Which brings up another question.  ”Why would I want to control the way I speak?”   My response is.  No matter if you like it or not, how you talk is a direct reflection of how people perceive you.  So ask yourself if you honestly want to be perceived by how you talk.  If you don’t care than unfortunately life will be very hard for you.  You should care. not about what people think of you that you don’t respect obviously, but, you should care what people think that are close to you especially. Caring what people think that are potential acquaintances or even strangers will also help you greatly.  Communication is one of the MOST important things that will help you get what you want in life, and need.   If you have true integrity you should try to show it in all you do, say, and think.  Obviously you won’t be perfect but you should try!  I promise it makes life easier.

Matthew 12:34-37

O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.  A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things.  But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judment.  For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.

Now for using the Lords, and Gods name in vain.  Come on.   Almost everyone in the Christian world knows that it’s one of the ten commandments.   Some people have a hard time with this one because they don’t think they’re using it in vain when just using it in casual conversation or just put it out there without any spiritual teaching or significance.  I’m sorry but if you use Gods name lightly believe me YOU TAKE him lightly.  Whether your making a consious decision or not.  There is now way that by doing this you’re making yourself a better person.  And again it’s a commandment!  Here’s my favorite scripture on the subject.

D&C 63:60-64 it reads:

Behold, I am Alpha and Omega, even Jesus Christ.  Wherefore let all men beware how they take my name on their lips.  For behold, verily I say, that many there be who are under this condemnation, who use the name of the Lord, and use it in vain, having not authority.  Wherefore, let the church repent of their sins, and I, the Lord, will own them; otherwise they shall be cut off.  Remember that that which cometh from above is sacred, and must be spoken with care, and by constraint of the Spirit; and in this there is no condemnation, and ye receive the Spirit through prayer; wherefore, without this there remaineth condemnation.

And that pretty much sums it up for this post.

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Favorite Band

March 23, 2010 at 8:35 pm (Interests)

Jimmy Eat World

“Why is Jimmy Eat World your favorite band?  Out of all the bands that have ever been why them?”    This is the question that I get most often when people ask me who my favorite band is.   And here is my response.

It all started with my cousins Shaun and Erich Kreitemeyer.  They were both huge fans of Jimmy  from Mesa Arizona which is where the band is from.  They went to the same high school etc, etc.  I would visit with them about once a year in the summertime usually.   When I was in nine grade I remember Erich and Shaun both playing their Cd’s at the time it was Static Prevails and Clarity had just been released.  I liked it a lot so I decided to get there CD.

About six months later we went to Arizona in January.  by this time I was a fan and knew all there songs.  While we were there they had a show.   This was my first real rock show I had been too.  Brolin was there and Erich took us.  This show was at a little whole in the wall place called the Green room that was a small bar but the bar part was closed for the show that was for all ages.   Erich got us to the front of the line where some friends where so we ended up front and center at the show that was packed like sardines.  The first two bands played and they were good one of them was called Ruebens Accomplice.  Then when they were through It was Jimmy’s turn.  I was so stoked I could hardly wait for the other bands to get done.  Jim Adkins of Jimmy eat world was setting up his equipment along with the rest of the band and while he was tuning his guitar and waiting for everyone else to set up he talked to Erich Brolin and I for like 20 minutes.  Needless to say I was starstruck!  I know it kind of sounds gay but hey,  this is my blog and you wouldn’t be reading it if you didn’t want the details.

Jim Adkins

Then the show started.  It was the sickest,  coolest, most ill nasty display of rock I have ever witnessed and sounded so sweet I can think straight just trying to write about it.   We went home and my ears were ringing for about 5 days but I didn’t care.   I had just been rocked!  I knew it, Brolin knew it and every last dang person in that small cement room knew it!

I still haven’t heard a better sounding band live.  Even with Effects, autotune,  on TV or anywhere.  I have since been to every Jimmy Eat World show I possibly could had they just get better sounding each time.

So here are my reasons for Jimmy Eat World getting Kyle’s title for Greatest band of all time.

SONG WRITING.  You cannot argue the fact that they have about 100 good songs.  Nay Great songs!  I think they are the only band that I listen to as much now as I did back when I started liking them!  Creating timeless songs that you can listen to over and over again is what true song writing is all about.  None of this one or two good song bull crap you get on almost all other albums from other artists that after about a month even their good songs sound mediocre and dull.

LAYERING.  They have a great way of making all of their Albums sound different and unique.  Harmonies are especially good vocally,  and all guitar parts on almost every single song have different melodies.   I think this helps with making their songs a little more timeless than most.

A BAND.    With them you will hardly hear a guitar solo, drum solo or a vibrato fest on vocals to try to show off.   Making sure that the song sounds good for the song and not for a personal sense of accomplishment is something you can sense in all there songs.   They do what sounds good and if it doesn’t sound good they don’t just through it on an album to fill up time.  Having  like 20 songs that aren’t on albums that are all great but didn’t make the cut just goes to show you.

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Explanation of My Blog

March 21, 2010 at 11:22 pm (Preface) (, )

Devin, Spencer and I at the Riviera Apartments lighting earwax candles.

I would like to make some kind of journal about experiences I have, impressions I get, lessons I learn, etc.   Maybe to help my future kids, my wonderful wife, me, or who ever stumbles upon this blog to know and remember the things that I’ve learned in life that have helped me not just bear through it , but enjoy it.  Better live it, and make it easier to get through all stages of it. My intent is not to preach through this blog or lecture.  My kids aren’t even born yet.  But my life is important and so is yours. I hope this will help me to remember what I know is true and good.   And pray it might help you too.

I was born in Payson Utah in march.   I have great parents that taught me what’s right.  Great siblings, and friends that have all been good examples to me.  My wife is the best one ever and I will explain why often throughout this blog! I was a homeowner at 24, a successful missionary, great drummer/musician, a nice person, adequate basketball player, and am great salesman.   I believe it’s good to focus on positive things but not to boast or be self-absorbed which is why I’m trying to do this on my secret blog and not on top of a mountain with some huge pa system for everyone to hear.   I do consider myself successful so far in my life because of the gospel of Jesus Christ and what it’s taught me. I hope to convey a little bit of that in what I do and say.  In no way do I think I’m perfect.    But there are somethings I have learned and know with all my heart that to be true.

Somethings I post on this blog will be just thoughts but there will be some reminders, facts, and some ideas that I have, mostly for me to remember. And, if it helps you in any way I’ll have made a difference, even if it’s a small one with this blog.

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